Throughout life we get hurt, and people hurt us. We live and we learn; and sometimes it takes mistakes to be made over and over before we get it; and other times it takes the same pain or the same faith to remind us where we stand in life. And honestly, I really don’t think I’m full of that much wisdom but if there’s anything I’ve learned through my own weird struggles and situations in life that can help the next persons struggles than I’m all for sharing! So I compiled a list of 9 of the most important things I have learned in my 29 years of life.
- It’s ok to take time away from life to work on yourself and things in your life; before you get back to Life. Did you catch all that?!? Seriously though, give yourself a break! I took 3 months ‘off’ from life last year; I know, I know it’s easier said than done. I didn’t make plans, I hardly talked to other people (which is pretty much unheard of for an annoyingly social person like me) but in those months I found what I was searching for. I found the path I wanted to get back on and the means of how I would be able to do it.
- You have no obligation to anyone if they are purposefully mean, leave you out or make you feel uncomfortable; you no longer owe them anything. Seriously, you don’t!
- Losing someone is not easy; trust me I know and the truth is, it DOES NOT get easier; the truth is, if anything, it gets harder. You continue to live your life more and more and in return think about more and more things they have missed out on. But the other truth to that is; they haven’t missed out on anything, they’ve been by your side the whole time watching after you and taking care of you in more ways than you will ever know. So take your missing them and turn the times you miss them into something they’d be proud of. Honor what you’ve learned from them and enjoy the traits that you got from them; and stop counting the years they’ve been gone.
- It is always ok to stick up for yourself, ALWAYS. Finding my ‘voice’ is something I continue to work on and sticking up for myself in an at least a somewhat semi-sane way is something I know I will continue to struggle with and will continue to work on. But it’s also something that no matter how much I struggle with or how much I’m not good at, I’m still always proud of myself for at least attempting to try. You are not a doormat, you are a person, and you deserve to be treated with love and respect, so make sure other people know where you stand on both.
- Some little things are just little things; so stop trying to make them into big things. Seriously though, you are not on a Lifetime original movie; there is no need to make the little things into big things. If something irritates you brush it off like you brush your cats annoying hair off of your clothes.
- Sometimes God’s planning is better than our own. My beautiful mother said this to me and it has stuck. Weather you’re planning for your next chapter in life, like when your boyfriend is finally going to stop dragging his feet and propose already, or if you’re trying to plan for a family; stop planning and just be and just believe that God’s planning is better than any planning you could be doing.
- You’ll find more peace in accepting the apology you didn’t get; than begging for the apology you think you deserve; just trust me on this one.
- Pain can be a great motivator if you let it be. Once you’ve given yourself enough time to sulk (but not too much time) take your pain in strides and turn it into something better than you ever thought you could do with it.
- Positivity and negativity are contagious; but so are genuine and rude people. Surround yourself with the genuine ones, you know who they are. They’re the ones that lift you up, the ones that you like being around and the ones that when they talk you know it is truly from their good intended heart. Surround yourself with those ones and your genuineness of being caring and your awesome self will explode out of your pores too.
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